“Most of my adult life, I have sought out therapists, good and knowledgeable people, who patched me up on a weekly basis and sent me back to my world of daily anxiety, self-defeating behaviors and strained relationships. Nothing truly changed for me until I started working with Rebecca only two years ago. Her insight, mirroring and loving presence have been transformative.
My life is calmer and more joyful, and my relationships with family and friends are more open, honest and nurturing. The man I’m dating now tells me he is awed by my authenticity.
Becky is well-versed in the work of others and recommends books, practitioners and modalities that meet my needs, as they arise. Examples are Alison Armstrong and the Diamond Approach. She truly wants what is best for me.
My experience with various therapists has been of trying to change myself, fix myself, so I can be happier. Rebecca has taught me to love and accept myself exactly as I am, which, ironically, has transformed me. I have changed, radically, but not through self-rejection. I’ve had therapists who tell me self-love is the key, but they didn’t succeed in leading me to self-love. Is that the difference between therapy and Rebecca’s work? Maybe it’s not that simple. Maybe it is. The main difference is what Becky does works!”
—A, Long Beach CA
If the time is right I look forward to helping you break-free from past self-defeating patterns to realize your authentic potential this year. To see if how I work is a fit for you simply…
If you’ve read or heard my story, you know I can relate to the pain and frustration of being stuck in painful patterns with body/food, relationship, and work/money despite being smart, introspective (a naval-gazer from way back), self-motivated, and having decades of psychotherapy.
Every day I am grateful for the miracles of transformation that woke me up to the love, truth, and beauty in myself, others, and the world, and freed me from carrying an extra 150-pounds and being out of control with food, unconsciously pushing love away while desperately trying to find it, and working myself to exhaustion to compensate for feelings of profound unworthiness.
There is nothing more meaningful to me than to support you in awakening to the truth of who and what you are and to experiencing true freedom from your personal flavors of suffering.
I’m not a psychotherapist, nor a clinical psychologist, nor a coach. While my training includes all these areas and my clients say our work together is therapeutic, diagnostic, and results-oriented, the sole (soul) purpose of our relationship is to support your deepest level of transformation through the practical and persistent challenges you face every day.
My unique way of working one-to-one with people developed by accident, by proximity, and by grace.
By accident because I never intended to be anything other than a computer consultant/systems analyst. By proximity because I’ve had the blessing of working with amazing psychotherapists and teachers of psycho-spiritual development over the years. And by grace because grace is what actually does the transforming and because the impulse to serve came from beyond my own self-interest.
“Before I started working with Becky, I was crazy, out of control, and scared. My emotions were all over the place, as was my eating, and I felt sick, depressed, anxious and completely powerless to do anything about it.
I avoided working one-on-one with Becky for a long time (I had done a series of classes so I knew her) because I was scared of the safety and intimacy that I knew would be there. I felt so flawed, so defective, that I didn’t want her to see how horrible I was. For many years, we didn’t work with my food issues. We worked with my emotions, my anger, my relationship which constantly triggered my emotions and my anger.
Becky’s gentleness and compassion allowed me to learn that it’s ok to be gentle with my tender, wounded parts, that it’s ok to have tender, wounded parts, and that indeed, everyone has tender, wounded parts. Her presence, never judging, always with me, allowed me to face my fears of others and my fear of being judged. Her compassion allowed me to face my own judgement with compassion, and to feel the pain of what that judgement does to me.
I can only begin to describe the transformation that has occurred as a direct result of my one-on-one sessions with Becky. I am now calm and grounded much of the time (a state I could only imagine when I began working with her). Now when emotions arise, I can identify them, be curious about what is causing them, and see what I need. I don’t get overwhelmed by my emotions anymore, never get lost in them, and, instead, experience my deep sensitivity as one of my greatest assets. The same is true with eating. I make food choices that are good for my body. I’m curious, not judgmental, so I always open to new information when I eat something out of alignment. After a lifetime of feeling there was never enough food, love, etc., I am in touch with the simplicity of when I’m hungry, what I’m hungry for, and when I’ve had enough.
I never thought that I could be as present and engaged in my life as I am today, and it is a direct result of working in private sessions with Becky. I cannot recommend working with her highly enough.”
—Robin, Denver CO
Underneath long-term, painful patterns with food, relationship, money, and creativity lies this fundamental truth about being human: through normal childhood development, we receive some accurate and many inaccurate messages about who we are, what is valuable and lovable about us, and what’s possible for us to experience inside ourselves, in relationship with others, and in the course of our lives.
These inaccurate messages are misunderstandings that condition and limit our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors resulting in distorted thinking, emotional suffering, and painful habitual patterns.
When our misunderstandings are clarified in the presence of compassion and objectivity, our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors transform in an optimal way for the unique individual we are, and our inner experience and outer expression become aligned with the love, truth, and beauty of our deepest nature.
“Before I started working with Becky, I read a lot of books about Buddhism, New-Age spirituality, psychology, self-improvement, chakra-balancing, yoga…and I enjoyed them and they all helped me to understand that there was a different way of living and understanding life than I had been following.
Nonetheless, I was still depressed and obsessed. Many days I would wake up with crushing anxiety – the day would feel hopeless before I would even get out of bed.
Making decisions was often impossible. I would pace back and forth weighing the pros and cons of every little decision, to the point that I often would never leave my house. Then I would be angry at myself because I didn’t take action, and feel like a total failure. It seemed that no one else had these problems.
When I did get anything done it was usually thanks to a massive amount of caffeine, which only made the anxiety worse, and soon caused me to crash lower than before.
It was incredibly scary for me to play music in front of people, even though that is was what I love to do the most. Now, things are completely different. I have learned to give myself space, and to make decisions with heart, not with my head. I love to perform in front of people and share my music; it’s still a little scary, but I have the presence to handle it now.
I feel hopeful, I am able to handle the pressures of everyday life AND still enjoy myself.
Becky has helped me find my capacities and to learn to live from my heart. Working with her is one of the most important things I have ever done.
There is no way to put a price tag on the ways that your life will improve. If I had the money. I’d have paid a million dollars for the benefit I’ve received from this work!”
—Greg Marchini, Los Angeles CA
Just as each relationship in your life has different elements, our work together and session structure will be customized to support the unique person you are and the unique place you are in your psycho-spiritual development.
Most of my clients are working the curriculum from one of our programs and utilizing private sessions to personalize their learning and deepen their transformation. Our sessions might include private instruction in the core practices, assessment review and recommendations, compassionate accountability, guided meditation and/or enquiry, and deep exploration into and processing of thoughts, emotions, body sensations, and beliefs that have kept self-limiting patterns in place.
If the time is right to finally embody the greater love, peace, freedom, and joy that naturally accompanies your alignment with your true self, sign up and schedule your free exploration session today:
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